Tuesday, April 14, 2009

About Perfectionism
(courtesy of http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/)

Perfectionism can be a healthy quality that drives a person to try his/her best and to make the effort to excel. Some people, however, take the strive for perfection too far...and there is a price to pay. Extreme perfectionists are forever dissatisfied; they can never fulfill their own expectations so, in their own eyes, they are always failures. Chronic perfectionism is driven by deep-seated feelings of inferiority and self-hate, and by nature it reinforces a negative self-image. Performing tasks or fulfilling goals becomes intimidating and unpleasant, since the perfectionist knows deep down that the finished product will never meet his/her expectations. So the perfectionist might have problems with procrastination. Perfectionism, then, can become a double-edged sword - the perfectionist is driven by a desire to succeed, as well as a fear of failure which leaves him/her paralyzed.

In all realms, striving for excellence can be beneficial and lead to a fulfilling professional and personal life. Accepting nothing less than excellence, on the other hand, can be emotionally scarring.

Results of your Perfectionism Test

Your score = 73/100

What does your score mean?

According to this test, you have some perfectionist tendencies that may be making you unnecessarily unhappy. You sometimes set high standards that are difficult to meet; either you impose those expectations on yourself, others, or a combination of the two. You may even think that others expect you to be perfect. While a desire to do your very best and strive to reach your full potential can bring you personal fulfillment, you have to learn when good is 'good enough'. It's important that you strengthen your ability to distinguish between reasonable aspirations and unrealistic demands. When you set unattainable objectives, you are being cruel to yourself and denying yourself the rewards and self-acceptance that you deserve.
It's so true that I'm a perfectionist as I'm always restless in making things better for myself. I always felt that I'm not good enough for anything/anybody, and nothing is ever good enough for me. I never settle for anything that is "good enough", and always looking for what I assumed as the BEST. This is a major flaw for a perfectionist, as I'm always pressurizing myself! A perfectionist also are kinda afraid of failure. If I'm not sure about something, I will not go ahead and do it. I need a 100% confidence to start doing something. That's why I am where I am now - zero point in life. Because I'm never sure of anything. I'm always afraid to try something new, and it eventually made me a person with very low self esteem, and with very little confidence. I think I need a super duper strong brainwash!